I am a little in denial that I am already 24. It sounds so cliche, but time has been going by so quickly! I think it’s because I already feel like I have changed so much in the past year. 20’s are such a strange time. Half the time I don’t really know what I am doing or where my career is going and it can be a little terrifying and overwhelming/ exciting at times. I feel like I’ve learned the most about myself this year, so I wanted to share a few things I have learned.
1. Be fearless
I know this is overused. Mostly by Pinterest and Instagram, but it’s so true. I lived in anxiety for a few years and honestly, at times I still do, but it became exhausting to constantly worry about failing. I’ve started not to care ( as much) if I mess up at something. I wouldn’t say I’m totally fearless because most the time I have to give myself a little pep talk to get through certain things that terrify me. Changing my mentality on how I look at certain situations really helped me to go after my dreams regardless of my fears.
2. Have faith
I feel like the moment I stop worrying about a particular thing and realize I’m truly not in control then I feel a million times better. I have the tendency to want to control every situation and its a relief to know that God’s got it and I don’t need to worry about it. This is something I am still learning and having to remind myself of every day.
3. Stop letting others tell you who you are
This should probably be no. 1 and this is the hardest lesson I have had to learn. I have watched a million Brené Brown videos, hoping to understand how to stop caring what people may think about me. Honestly, it’s pretty impossible not to care totally, but I think what was huge for me was when I stopped letting it influence me and have power over me. I have always been more of a leader in a group than a follower, but it’s still difficult not to let what others say get to you. You have to value yourself enough and recognize the things that make you special.
4. Knowledge is power
In high school, I wasn’t that concerned with academics. Don’t get me wrong, I did pretty well considering the lack of effort I gave. I just didn’t care, because I never felt like it was beneficial at the moment to the things I cared about. I’m not sure that has totally changed, but when it comes to something I am really passionate about then I want to know everything. I especially want to learn from others. I think everyone can learn from those who have been successful in life and in their careers. Because of my love fashion (especially haute couture), I want to know everything about the business and the ins and outs of how the most beloved designers got to where they are now. My advice would be to find your passion and just soak up all the information you can from everyone around you.
5. Be authentic
I think we are living in a time where we can celebrate what makes us all so different from one another. I always admire people who aren’t afraid to be themselves. So, just be you!!
These all seem so obvious, but I think we forget to live them out. I’d love to hear any comments or things you have learned that you find valuable!
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